The Fatherless Child

Hey you,

I'm coming to you with a very sensitive subject that is impacting our children one life at a time.  The fatherless child. When I say fatherless, I am referring to the child who's biological father is inactive in that child's life. I am not downplaying the role of a stepfather because I know that stepfathers can make a huge difference, but that child who does not have an active male in their life.

I am very aware of the fact that children are growing up in single parent homes more so now than before.  I not saying that to be a bad thing because I am a result of that situation, but not everyone is the same. Many of our males are growing up and turning to illegal activities because they do not have that positive male role model in their life. Now, I am well aware that can be the case if one was present, but let's focus on the situation where he is not present.

Have you ever had a conversation with a teen or male that sold drugs? How many times have we heard them say they did it to help their mom or help take care of their siblings? I've heard it far too many times. Our children, our youth is infatuated with the fast money, glitz, and glam that comes with this illegal lifestyle that they drop out of school just to live that life. Money, cars, clothes, jewels, and multiple women. Oh boy! They think that's the life and why wouldn't they when everything around the revolves around that? We are living in a world where it is expected that girls go to college and boys don't. We're the young man is teased and ridiculed for attending college instead of "hustling". That's not the way it should be.

We must get control of our children and show them that is not the life they want to live.  We are living in a society where working men are looked down on and disrespect and strippers (no disrespect) get more respect than career women. This is the world our children are growing up in. We must instill morals and values into our children so that when it is time for them to care for their own family, they are equipped with the tools they need to succeed in raising their children to the best of their ability.  Our children need TOOLS which are morals, values, education, respect, and integrity. We all know no one can complete their job without the proper tools. A gardner can't garden without their special tools, a handyman can't complete their job without their tools, so why would you allow your child to grow without their tools.  Proverbs 22:6 says "Train up a child in a way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Let's train our babies up to be responsible citizens!

Fathers, I encourage you to be there for your children whether it is a boy or girl. Give them the love and nurturing they need from a father. It is only so much we can do as women, as mothers. Remember, you are your daughter's first love and you are the man your son should be looking up to.  You show your child how to love and respect not only themselves, but others. No matter if you are with the woman or not, your child needs YOU!