Mommy, Mommy!!!

Hello again and thank you for taking the time out to support my blog! I am so excited and I have so many great things to share with you! 

Since I focused on fathers yesterday, or the lack of, I think it's only fair to channel in on mothers. Mothers are equally as important as a father.  Our children should have that special relationship with their mother. Mothers are there to shape and mold their children into sensible, respectful individuals.  A mother should show their daughter how to be classy and a young lady at all times. She should communicate with her daughter on ways to be respected by others. A mother should demonstrate to her son a role model of the woman he should be attracted to. A woman who carries herself with dignity and respect. Are you that mother to your child?

As young parents, we are getting caught up with "that life" which includes dating, partying, and having fun. There isn't anything wrong with that but as the old saying goes, it's not what you do, but how you do it. Mothers, your children are watching you and everything they see you doing, they are going to want to do it because they see no wrong in you. As the young lady said on "Lean on Me", "When my baby looks at me, she don't see no wrong" and that is how your child looks at you. So ask yourself, are you setting a good example for your child? Is that man your with now the type of man you want to raise your child, or, does he even like your kids? There is nothing wrong with dating anyone but your child doesn't have to "date" every man you are. Be cautious about who you bring around your children and who you leave your children with. Not everyone has good intentions with your child.

It is also okay to hang out and have fun with friends but I encourage you to do so in moderation.  Ask yourself, "what example am I setting for my child?" What message are you conveying to your child when you hang out more than spending time with your child. Eventually your child will feel unwanted thinking you like/love your friends more than them. That is certainly not the way we want our children to feel.  If you know that you like to hang out, schedule "dates" to spend  with your children. Let them chose what the want to do while their on the date. This will help them gain a sense of value. They will feel as if they are wanted and they will respect that time they have with you. While I'm sure you love your child(ren), they should know it too. We sometimes think a child "just knows" things, but that is merely an assumption. Take time to tell your child how much you love them. Share encouraging words about why you love them, not simply because they are your child. Point out their uniqueness and talents to them every chance you get. Help them to gain a positive sense of self.

If you enjoyed making that child, YOU should enjoy taking care of and nurturing that child (that goes for men too)!  Let's raise our children to be the kings and queens they are!